Have the Talk of a Lifetime
This post was first shared on Have the Talk of a Lifetime’s blog on May 4.
When I was in elementary school, I discovered that one of my classmates was the child of a funeral home owner. I pitied this attractive, popular girl for having a parent that my 8-year old brain imagined to be a beady-eyed, sallow-skinned man who lurked around a cobwebbed funeral home on dark and stormy nights. One day she invited me to a birthday party at her home. I accepted despite dreading the thought of meeting her creepy father. To my surprise, on the day of her party, a man resembling Will Ferrell, not Bela Lugosi, greeted me at the door. He was funny, charming and warm. This was a funeral director? I couldn’t believe that all those Hollywood movies got it so wrong.
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Like the electrician who corrected the problems I caused with my home’s wiring, funeral professionals have opportunities to help families avoid problems with whatever options they take upon themselves to memorialize loved ones. Not everyone will be comfortable with these options, but consider how you might offer your expertise (for a fee) to DIY-minded funeral families. Read the rest of this entry »
Have the Talk of a Lifetime
I’m a big fan of celebrity funerals. At what other times do funerals get an international spotlight? Not only do celebrity funerals add some glamour to a subject most people dread, but they also inspire people to talk about how they want to be remembered.
When Joan Rivers died in 2014, family and friends described her funeral as the perfect tribute—glitzy, over-the-top and one-of-a-kind. More importantly, it was a cathartic experience that started their transition to life without their friend and loved one. Mourners left the church grieving, but with a sense of exuberance they hadn’t experienced up to that point. Gathering with family and friends to say goodbye to people we love can have tremendous healing power.
Transformative funerals are not just for celebrities, they’re for us too.
Transformative funerals are not just for celebrities, they’re for us too. This begs this question: how do we as “ordinary” people plan such powerful and significant experiences? The first step is simple: tell others how we want to be remembered and what is truly meaningful in our lives.
A collection of free tools is available to help us accomplish that goal. These tools are part of a program called Have the Talk of a Lifetime that was created to encourage families to discuss tribute options with one another well before they’re needed. Knowing what is meaningful to loved ones of all ages is the key to planning healing memorials. Read the rest of this entry »
Originally posted at www.talkofalifetime.org/blog.
A carpenter named George lived in my hometown for many years. George possessed carpentry skills that were widely regarded as nothing short of amazing. When he passed away, many people who attended his visitation asked his family why none of the memorabilia on display depicted his talent for building. It would have been easy to display his worn saw horses, carefully-maintained tools and old coveralls as a tribute to the life he lived. His widow replied, “George wanted to be remembered for something other than his sanding technique and his ability to install electrical wiring in tight spaces.” Read the rest of this entry »
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Where’s the car I was promised that folds into a briefcase? That may be an odd question given the amazing technology that’s been introduced during my lifetime. Computer and Internet magic have far surpassed anything I could have imagined. Still, I’m a little disappointed that some genius hasn’t figured out how to produce the fold-up automobile featured in the 1960s television cartoon The Jetsons. Read the rest of this entry »